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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Leave her there. Given the dementia, she will not get used to another facility in the same way. They can care for her; you won’t have to make the trip often (if you don’t want to). Talk to an expert but I think you’ll see a rapid decline if you move her from a place and people that are known. [/quote]

This.

If she can "level up" where she is, with a place she knows and some people with whom she has a connection, that's the best situation for her. What will be most important over time will be her safety - which will be determined more by the facility than by your proximity. I don't mean to be cold or harsh, but in 5 years (or whenever) it will matter more to her that she is physically cared for than if she sees you - as she likely won't experience or remember you the way she does now.

Needing/wanting proximity for yourself is a different matter of course - I don't mean to diminish you wanting to see your mom easily, but I'm just advocating for the most pragmatic decision making. Least disruption for your mother, combined with best safety and care, would be my drivers.[/quote]

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