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[quote=Anonymous][quote=SoccerRef][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a referee shortage because of parents[/quote]

I'm a referee and I appreciate this thread. Thank you. However, and just as an FYI, although many parents/coaches/players are crazy, what makes me sick of reffing more than anything is the lack of professionalism of some of the other referees. We are supposed to be there 30 minutes prior...we check goals, flags, field conditions, check in players, etc. Some referees want to show up 10 minutes before kick off. Then they show up dressed like a slob. untucked shirts, socks down or wrong socks, won't buy a 2nd or 3rd colored jersey, etc etc., their lack of knowledge of the rules, their lack of fitness, lack of effort to follow the play, and things like this.

Someone brought up how would you like people at work to yell at you when you make a mistake at work...Great point, but how would you like to go to work/side hustle and have to work with one or two people of a team of 3) who don't give a S, they don't know what they are doing, they are unprepared, usually late, and you get lumped in with them because they are on your team. You wouldn't last long would you?

So to all the referees out there from a fellow referee...get your S together and I bet less parents/coaches/players would yell at us.[/quote]

As a long-time ref, and former assesor, I completely understand how frustrating it is to work with an unprofessional ref, or to watch one officiating your kids. I have a son playing as well, and I often have to bite my tongue when a ref isn't doing their job.

With that said, the thought that a rise in referee prosessionalism would do anything to combat the rising abuse is laughable.

You could have FIFA officials working games, and they'd still have to deal with the exact stuff that we do.

Being the best ref in the world isn't going to stop the parent from screaming about missed offside calls on throw ins.
Being the best ref in the world isn't going to stop a coach from cursing my son in a foreign language. 
And that's just from this weekend.

Look, I'm not going to dive too deep in the causes of abuse, and why it's on the rise....that's a whole other topic...but it's not going to go away until parents, coaches, and the leagues themselves decide it's going to go away.
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The lack of professionalism pisses me off as a referee and makes me reconsider continuing to ref...in addition to other things. If referees were better at knowing the laws, if centers were better at covering the field to sell tough calls and make the right call, ARs staying with the 2nd to last defender. ARs getting to the goal line, etc. These things would definitely help "match control".  If you ref games where this stuff doesn't get the coaches and parents riled up, please share the clubs playing in those matches. [/quote]

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