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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Craziness is all parent driven.[/b] I don't think any of your suggestions would improve the process at selective schools. There is more demand (both US & Int'l) than seats. There are thousands of colleges in the universities in the US. The vast majority are not selective.[/quote]

As the parent of a child who's about driven me nuts for the last year, I call bs. [b]Wanting to attend a selective school is ALL him.[/b] I applied to a handful of safeties in my time. I've begged him to consider doing the same. He's reaching, not me. [/quote]

NP. I agree that sometimes kids are just different than their parents. But parents can play a huge role in shaping their child's values. Why does your son value a selective school? Is it his peer group? How did he end up with that peer group?

At my child's school I notice a lot of parents pushing over the years and then, when their Junior year child is a ball of stress, they try to back off and/or they complain about "the system". It's too late by then. The child has internalized every lesson along the way: why they need to be in a good school system, why they need good grades,  why they need to keep doing the extra curriculars they don't like, why they need to continually climb up the ladder in the extra curriculars they do like, why they should have certain friends, why they should take certain classes, why they need to visit colleges, why they need to test prep. You can't shift gears right at the end and expect your kid to go alone.

And by you, I mean parents. Obviously I don't know your specific circumstance or what you have or have not done.

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