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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds so so much like my 8 year old DD with ADHD! Especially the singing and interrupting. I think if you are wondering enough to post on DCUM you should just get her evaluated. Ask your pediatrician for names but get a real evaluation- pediatricians tend to not recognize ADHD in girls who are doing ok academically. We had that experience and my DD is a textbook, severe case. [/quote]

Me again- one thing that tripped me up until I learned more about ADHD is that my DD is capable of really remarkable attention/focus/work when she is interested in something. She will sit and read a good book for hours. But apparently that’s common- it’s actually called [b]hyperfocus[/b] and when kids enjoy school or parts of school they are able to focus really well on those. Or other activities! If you saw my DD watching the instruction at her studio you would not believe she has ADHD because she’s laser focused. Anyway I just throw that out there because it was confusing for me for a while [/quote]

The ability to hyperfocus is amazing and a real trait of ADHD. My daughter can read a book for hours. She can build civilizations out of Legos and craft supplies in her room for hours. But tell her to do two different things and remember them both? No way. Tell her to finish a task that is multiple steps? No way - it will always get halfway done. I have no idea how she does so well in school. I'm not sure that she always will.[/quote]

Isn't it just human nature to be able to focus more on things that are interesting to us?  It's not some great feat of "focus" to read a book for hours. It boggles my mind that everyone wants to pathologize normal human traits these days.  Amphetamines for all![/quote]

I have hyper focus and it’s not exactly like that. I have no sense of time. I literally have no idea what time it is. I will lose myself in a task. It’s different than focusing on something that I’m interested in. I have never understood how people can multitask. I cannot. I struggle with being on time and have to set alarms to remind myself. Even then, I will lose track of time while getting ready to go or whatever it is I set my alarm for.

I always thought it was a quirk. It can be very useful because I will do whatever it is I set out to do well. But it comes at a cost.

As a child, I was a perfectionist who was always late. My grades were excellent, but often at the expense of fun activities. [/quote]

+1 - from a woman who was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult - hyper focus was amazing when I was handling a critical, complex problem at work.   But if don’t get into that ‘zone’ - it’s impossible to finish anything.

My 9DD was recently diagnosed with ADHD - different specifics - she will spend hours constructing something out of cardboard, duct tape, and Ali foil, but can’t get through some fairly easy tasks without getting distracted.  [b]She’s also HIGHLY sensitive to criticism and will go into doomsday mode if she makes a mistake.  [/b]

Her grades are good and she’s not disruptive in school, so I’m skeptical there will be much intervention at school now — but it’s helpful for us as parents to know some of this is just the way her brain works.

No meds for her now.  [/quote]

OP here. This is my DD through and through. If she's not perfect at something at the start, she tends to give up immediately, especially if she's not interested (ie: math). She can handle criticism better (from some people) if it's something she's really into. She dances and handles criticism and critiques amazingly well. But if she and I have to practice at home ... all bets are off. She will make a mistake and then literally lay on the floor and melt down for 20 minutes. Then spirals about how she's the worst dancer and should quit dance. I've told this to her teachers and they are shocked by it. Her grades are starting to suffer in math simply because she shuts down because she's not good at it. So thankful most everything else in school comes easily for her. Whenever we have to practice dance at home or do homework together, I'm anxious leading up to it because I never know how it will go. I am very careful about what I saw for fear it will be construed as criticism and then the wheels fall off.

I used to think she "just" had anxiety, but then reading more and watching how her mind seems to work, made me wonder about ADD. I just know something is off. [/quote]

That sounds like textbook rejection sensitive dysphoria, a pretty classic symptom of the emotional dysregulation associated with ADHD.

https://chadd.org/adhd-weekly/rejection-can-more-painful-with-adhd/[/quote]

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