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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not exactly the story you are looking for but... I caught my H cheating pregnant with my 2nd. He moved out but we reconciled after 8 months. I would have NEVER reconciled but i had an infant and toddler and thought, it's worth a try.

The next 2 years sucked but the 8 that followed were amazing. Then it started again, the weirdness and depression.

I told him to get therapy, he wouldn't so ... i waited and bam, the affair was revealed again.

He moved to the guest room, and I pretended to agree to reconcile after a year of therapy. he did intense therapy (he has PTSD) and it really helped him a lot, he became somewhat normal and a great father. but it was too much 2 affairs forget about it.

I asked for a divorce, he continued therapy for 3 more intense years.

Now he is a great dad, I'm very happy and we are extremely amicable... so much so it drives my friend crazy. I like him more than most people like their husbands.

Not exactly what you were looking for but one with a happy ending. [/quote]

Similar to us. Caught him cheating while pregnant with my second and a toddler at home. Would have absolutely been done immediately if it were not for the kids. Threw ourselves into marriage and individual therapies. The following two years were so emotional and painful and exhausting and raw. I did not have high hopes, but we honestly built something I'm proud to be a part of now. Our relationship is the best it's ever been- more date nights, way better sex life, more efficient communication, more intentional loving each other in the way we each need. I LOATHE the fact that infidelity was the springboard for change, but I often wonder if that hadn't happen and we didn't put in all the work- would we still be together.[/quote]

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