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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most that have three either have a lot of hired help and do no hands on parenting or they are a hot mess and designate the kids needs, especially transportation and food to other families.[/quote]

Weird. We have 3 and find three to be a fairly common number of kids in our area (though definitely less common than 2). In our case, it is because #2 ended up being twins (lol). For many friends, they were on the fence and ended up with an unplanned #3. Others just wanted 3. UMC suburban neighborhood & most do not have tons of hired help or do the things you describe. Weird. [/quote]

Same with us. A lot of judgement and negativity here. Seems like another thread that was created for the purpose of judging other people (with the goal of feeling better about your choices?). I guess what the vast majority of parents of 1 and 2 commenting have in common is that they are judgmental and have a strong need to feel superior…[/quote]

I have two and also disagree with many of these posts. My friends with three are happy, mostly chill, and generally say three is a lot but I can tell it works for them. It looks happy and fun to me, even if it isn't hte right path for me. And I wouldn't say they have more help than my other friends. In my experience, number of kids is so personality based and the experience in your family of origin. Also some people really are more zen!! We dont' all have the same window of tolerance, mental health, and caregiving abilities. I generally think my friends with three have a little higher tolerance for chaos, are generally chill people, and sometimes (but definitely not always) have generally easier kiddos (vs tough colicky infants and one neurodivergent kid in my case). [/quote]

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