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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His wife was beautiful and accomplished. They went on to have two kids. I wasn't interested and never gave him that one night. It was disappointing that he he would do that. He went to kiss his wife's sister. His wife never found out, so he says. They inevitably divorced. We reconnected years later and he said that he had to lie to his wife frequently to keep the marriage. He just didn't marry someone with whom he could be honest.

Many men do this when marrying a woman who checks boxes. [/quote]

The sad truth that many dont want to acknowledge is many men are very "logically minded" and they often marry the women that they feel will benefit them the most or give them an advantage.  So the woman with a big law career and prominent family, if they're trying to rise up the ranks of their company/industry.  Or the SAHM who will do all the chores and take care of kids without complaint.  Or just the girl who is really thrilled to be with them and will give them sex everyday and help pay the bills and do most of the childcare because she's a go-getter.  The choices men make often don't align with their emotions or deep "love", and align more with logical choices about what will benefit them and make their life easy. [/quote]

Yep, I know several men who in their 20s quickly married women who were ready to give them the life they wanted when they thought it was time to settle down. In many cases, they married women whose Parents helped them buy houses near them and they had kids within a couple years  of marrying. A lot of these men are now in midlife crisis mode. [/quote]

This scenario literally just happened (or almost did) on Love is Blind.  The guy with no credit, no health insurance, severe debt and a very sketchy "job", going after two very high earning women (just a coincidence I'm sure) and being devastated when the one he picked ultimately left him at the altar.  His eyes were big as saucers when she showed him around her house the first time, and he was trying to convince her to buy him a huge TV to fit the living room.  And then got upset when she though men should pay for dates.  A lot, lot, lot of men are a lot more financially savvy about dating than women give them credit for.  And I've noticed many of the girls who grew up with family money do seem to marry early to men who don't seem that into them.  Wealth is a huge point of attraction for many, men included.[/quote]

It’s no different from the women with no real earning ability who pull a sweet guy who is a good provider with a professional job in their 20s, have kids quickly and become SAHMs, but are secretly wishing they married the bad boy. [/quote]

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