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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are dumb and immature enough to think this way, you shouldn’t be a mother [/quote]

Well, not necessarily. She could just be pondering why world is how it is and what if there are other ways, not necessarily a psycho wanting to lock kids in her basement .[/quote]

To me the psycho part is not thinking she'd like to live with her kids for the rest of her life, but framing it as "what if you could pay for your kids so they didn't have to get an education or ever work?" The implication here is also that they never marry or have kids, since if they have no education or profession and live at home with their parents as dependents, they are very unlikely to develop the kind of adult relationship that is required to have a family.

I can absolutely see living with my kids in some capacity for the rest of my life. But I'm envisioning a situation where our house is their home base while they got to college, pursue goals, develop adult relationships, and perhaps start their own family. I could also see moving in with my kids to provide childcare to grandkids and help them with the little kid years if they wanted that (and ONLY if they wanted that). I am close with my kids and want to have a supportive, mutually enriching relationship with them until I die.

But I don't want to hold them back from having fulfilling, meaningful lives that involve people other than me. It would make me really sad if my child's most signficant relationships in life were just with us. That would feel like a failure on my part. Plus then we will die, and then what? They grieve and then they die? That's not a healthy circle of life, it's called enmeshment and it's very unhealthy and selfish.[/quote]

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