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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not remotely okay. I had a serious boyfriend (we lived together for a while) who had regular outbreaks of genital warts and did not tell me. Of course I ended up getting a horrible case myself and I wouldn't wish what I went through at the dermatologist getting them burned off on my worst enemy. We were broken up by the time the warts showed up on me, and I had a new boyfriend and had to tell him. It was awful, but I did it. Totally irresponsible not to tell someone about an STI, and it says a lot about a person who would put someone else's health in jeopardy without saying a word.

I'm sorry this happened to you. [/quote]

Don't they clear on their own? [/quote]

I don't know ... mine were there for quite a long time and when I finally saw the doctor, she told me we'd need to burn them off. I can't imagine she would have put me through that (the pain was excruciating) if there was a good chance they would have cleared on their own -- she was very compassionate about the whole thing.  I probably had over a dozen of them. [/quote]

But how come you didn't notice he had them? Did you use condom and then not used? Or he infected you while he didn't have an outbreak. Just wondering as I'm considering an open sex with BF and men are not tested for HPV.

Were you vaccinated for HPV?[/quote]

This was before there was a vaccine for HPV. I suppose I didn't notice because I didn't look that closely? Not sure how else to put that. We did not use condoms because I had an IUD and we both had been tested for HIV (back then the big thing was testing for HIV). He knew full well he had the warts and never mentioned it in the multiple conversations we had about STD testing and safe sex. I really don't know exactly when I was infected or what the situation was on his *&^ at the time?

As far as your BF having HPV, I think most people have been exposed to it, but the virus can clear out of the body after a time. I don't know -- you should read up on it. Trust me, you do NOT want those warts. [/quote]

Condoms reduce the chance of contracting HSV, HPV, syphilis and chancroid, they are great at preventing HIV, gonorrhea and clamydia, because those are transmitted via secretions the chanchre STDs are transmitted via skin to skin and mucous membrane contact.

Also, I don’t think HSV is harmless at all. It can cause meningitis, encephalitis and blindness. [/quote]

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