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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think this specific thing is a deal breaker, but I don’t see how you can make a relationship work with two people who are both super rigid about doing every tiny thing their way.

Someone has to give and either leave the dishes out longer or put them away sooner.  If neither person can change on this small thing, then you are just going to be constantly fighting over everything.  
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Agreed.  The real question is probably closer to can an uptight control freak ever be happy with anyone?[/quote]

Is the uptight control freak the one who puts dishes in the dishwasher as they happen or the one who has to let everything wait until morning?  
Both of these people sound like uptight control freaks to me.

OP, stuff like this isn’t a big deal in most marriages. 
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Whoever would be so passionate that their way is the only correct way to the point that the dishes schedule or lack thereof could be a relationship killer is the uptight control freak.  And unless the person who wants to wait prevents the person who wants it done  right away from doing it right away, it’s obvious who is who.[/quote]

I mean, aren’t they both so passionate that their way is the only correct way to the point that the dishes schedule or lack thereof could be a relationship killer?  
I mean, the person who wants to wait is preventing the person who wants it done from having a clean kitchen. 
I can go either way with this, [b]but I don’t really see how the person who wants it done is preventing the other person from anything at all.  [/b]

I don’t know.   I wouldn’t want to be with either of these people.  
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as a person that prefers to WAIT and load a bunch of dishes at once (sensory processing issue stuff, but also it feels inefficient to me to open, rise, and load dishes a bunch of times rather than ... just the once .. and yes its a few minutes difference but those few minutes every day adds up over a life time)  ... I would argue that they ARE preventing me from doing things if they insist i load as i go vs at one time later in the day ... you are asking me to do somethign I dont want to do because it isn't on YOUR timeline.

The "waiter" isn't preventing the "immediate" loader from anything, if it's important to them to do this several times a day so they can have a "clean kidtchen" then they can.  But to force a person to do things on YOUR schedule just because it's YOUR preference ... indicates that the "immediate" loader is the control freak. The "waiter" just isn't as bothered by the sight of dishes and will get to it at the end of the day.  Isn't that big of a deal.

The point is, if it IS a big deal, I think most ppl can assume it's the "immediate" loader who is the control freak ... because they are requesting someone does it THEIR WAY and only THEIR WAY

the point is, your inability to see something from another's perspective [/quote]

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