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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here, my shower isn’t yet so I haven’t been gifted any items. I find it weird that she would buy these items for herself and not buy items for my household first. I guess I’m here to ask if I am in the right to find this weird or it’s no big deal.[/quote]

I think it's actually thoughtful that she's looking to outfit her house with the items you have decided you want for the baby. That could be really useful, frankly.

Since you haven't had your shower yet, you have no idea what she's bought or plans to buy for you. Sometimes grandparents will stake out something specific from the registry and let you know -- "we're buying the stroller so don't let anyone else do it!" because they want to make sure they buy you something they know will be useful and will get a lot of use, or they want to make sure to by a high dollar item. Other times they have more sentimental gifts in mind. They also might want to wait until the baby is born and then buy the thing you didn't know you needed but it turns out you really want, which happens ALL the time with babies.

It's also possible that she's thinking "well I'll buy this stuff for my house but then if any of it doesn't get purchased off the registry, I'll just give the stuff I bought to them."

All of which is to say, she's not doing anything *wrong* and actually what she's doing could be seen as helpful. And since you don't actually know what, if anything, she's buying for you guys, it's probably too early to judge.

Now, if the baby is born and she never gives you anything and then explains that her plan is to just take the baby to her house to use all the cool stuff she bought, then come back and tell us and we'll bash her with you! But start with the benefit of the doubt.[/quote]

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