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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they are in medicine then I presume they are well off and probably have significant marital assets for their wives to go after in divorce.

Women file for divorce approximately 75 - 80% of the time. When a man has significant resources and future income potential there is no real barrier and all the motivation in the world (i.e., child support, alimony, asset division) for a woman to file for divorce. Follow the money.

With a high earning man the wife often says "he worked too much and wasn't emotionally available to me" as the initial excuse for her desire to divorce. The same wife, however, will also complain if the man reduces his work and brings home less money. The root cause is not the man emotional availability. The root cause is that life became very predictable and stable and she is longing for [u]emotional variety.[/u] She wants an emotional adventure and is looking for an excuse to divorce.

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As someone living this, this just isn’t true. I and many of my peers feel boxed out and relegated to domestic life when our husbands didn’t rise to the occasion as promised when we had kids. So our careers had to be scaled back to always be the one to make drop offs and pick ups and sick days and middle of the night feeds and our stars dimmed more and more bc our husbands couldn’t stand to step back in the slightest way.  We all would have been happier with more balanced relationships where we fairly negotiated both our career goals and domestic needs. So yes once I knew I’d been fine financially despite my career being in the shitter, I said f-this. But none of this is the life I wanted.[/quote]

I’m a lucky one. I did scale back my career when my kids were tweens but luckily I found work that was far more rewarding even if the pay was lousy. My husband alway said do what makes you happy. He was very successful and he was gone from 7 to 7 but he rarely worked at home in the evening or on weekends so he was all in with me and our children. Yes, I made the career trade off and do wonder what I could have accomplished  in business but we are very happy and the choices I made, not my husband, have worked out very well.[/quote]

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