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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I don't think you can ban the other parent from taking the child to religious things on their parenting time OP.

[b]I'm very happy that we included Right of First Refusal. Ours starts at 4 hours-basically if the parent who has parenting time cannot care for the child for 4 hours or more, they must first offer parenting time to the other parent before getting other care (in school time is not included in this).[/b] Also our order specifies that parenting time is between the biological parents.

Really spelling things out like holidays, vacations, out of state notifications, future cell phone plans, orthodontics (mine says split cost whether needed or cosmetic, although our dc's is needed), passports, schooling, child contact with parents,  all the things, has been useful for us.

I suggest googling the Florida parenting plan. It's very thorough and will give you ideas of what to put in yours.[/quote]

NP here
Does it cover parties/time with friends?  If your kid's friend has a sleep over party from 6 pm-9 am and you are fine with your kid attending (and obviously you would not be there) can your ex contest this?[/quote]

PP here. We have not had this issue raised, but based on my reading of our plan-Yes, I believe the other parent could. Ours specifies that parenting time applies only to the biological parents. On one hand, it may let ex prevent dc from a sleepover that I approve of. On the other hand, I could prevent dc from a sleepover that I do not approve of. [/quote]

If its his time you should not be approving a sleep over.[/quote]

If it's in the agreement that parenting time is for biological parents, then yes you get offered parenting time first, before a child would spend extended time away from the biological parents.[/quote]

Part of parenting is giving your kids a variety of experiences, including social experiences and experience with separation.  Divorce doesn't mean the kid should give those things up![/quote]

It doesn't mean kid 'gives those things up'. It means that both parents have to be ok with it, like it would if they were married.

I mean, if you are fine with the idea of your kids spending time with whomever the ex thinks is fine to leave your kids with, and you don't want the parenting time-don't put rofr in your plan. But it exists for very valid reasons.[/quote]

when you’re married, both parents don’t legally have to agree to a sleepover. a ROFR in a parenting plan is a legal requirement. the *whole reason* you are divorcing is that you are in some way bad at communicating and don’t get along - so the parenting plan should strive to reduce friction points where you have to communicate. there’s a reason why what you do with parenting time is generally controlled by the other parent - because you as a couple are bad at agreeing in some way![/quote]

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