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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You already told your brother and his wife, what would change in telling them again? It seems they didn’t fully believe you or might have thought you exaggerated the facts. They have made up their minds and you will only hear “mind your own business” if you bring it up again. [/quote]

Op here. So I’m only allowed to raise this issue one time ever in my life? That’s the number of conversations I’ve had about this with my brother and SIL. [/quote]

No, OP. This PP is wrong. You are allowed to raise it as many times with as many people as you need to.[/quote]

No, OP, of course not. But understand that your words have not changed their actions re: their kids. You can continue to raise it but it may cause estrangement from you and no increase in safety to the kids. That is the reality of these dynamics. And repeatedly talking to them while they continue to stay at the house of your perpetrator with young kids is going to be incredibly triggering for you but it is not something you have any control over. It's no longer an information issue. They did not know. Now they do. They still stay in that house with the kids. I know it feels horrible and you feel like you must change it but the decision is not within your control and you need to learn to manage your anxiety and PTSD around that fact. It sucks, I have been there. These dynamics are incredibly common, you cannot find the magic words to change them. You told and that was very brave. You can only protect yourself and your kids, should you have any unless you want to involve the legal system and if that is possible.

Focus on what YOU can control. Check the SOL in their state, maybe you could file charges? [/quote]

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