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[quote=Anonymous]op - to answer some qs:
- I dont think i've posted this before. maybe? but not for a long time if so. 
- when I say engage in choosing between jobs I mean I have a choice between 3 jobs and he keeps avoiding talking about it. But we have to talk about it because they all have impact on our lives.

as for those saying I'm a narcissist, do you think if I were a narcissist I'd be saying that after years and years and years of trying to get this person to fully engage I'm tempted to do something insane? You have to assume that for years I did normal stuff.

And yes I'm sure he's sick of it being more about me than him. And I get that. And - SAME. But If my job requires 10h a day of back to back meetings, high drama and I make 4x as much as him, have been pretty sick for a lot of that and still have to do most of the admin for the kids bc he has adhd, then he is also already getting a LOT more 'me time' just by dint of not having to deal with those three things.

I don't want it to be 'about' me at all. I just want me time too.  And I feel like if it were flipped, I'd be pretty proactive knowing i had more time to play with, in helping research options etc etc. Or at least commit to a 15 minute conversation every couple of days where we move the ball fwd instead of avoidance. [/quote]

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