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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are focused on mobility inside the house and are less focused on the logistics of staying in a house during a long aging process.  Are you aware of how much it costs to have in-home caregivers on a nearly 24 hour basis? Are you going to be able to afford that, potentially for years? Are you or your loved ones going to have the cognitive ability/time to manage in-home workers and all the supplies that are needed for that kind of caregiving? Because when people reach the point that they can’t go up and down stairs, that is usually not the only disability they are dealing with. And at that point, having a huge house to move around in is not necessarily a plus. My elderly father is at home now but his mobility has gotten to the point where he essentially just lives in one room, the TV room, in a hospital bed. Whether or not he had a elevator would have been completely irrelevant to his aging in his large house. In fact, my mother does not want his caregivers going up to her bedroom, which is their shared room, so she would not even want him going up and down the stairs in the house. I just feel like people who think having an elevator is going to make a difference believe that aging it is just a matter of a few handy tools, hand holds and such, when in fact it is the changing of your life on a huge basis and almost everything that seemed important to you is going to seem much less so and your ability to do even basic stuff like get dressed with be dramatically curtailed. Me, I am planning to live close to my kids, in a continuing care apartment, with as little stuff as possible after the age of 75.[/quote]

YES!! My parents wanted to age in place in there 3000sqft, one level, home. I fought so hard for them to move closer to me into IL at a CCRC. But they loved that house and all their stuff. Then a health crisis meant they had to move quickly. [b]Well, now they were too old and sick to manage downsizing, selling a house, moving and setting up a new place. That was all me. It was so stressful. I've been through a lot, but nothing so stressful.[/b] And once they were settled, guess what they didn't miss--their big house and all their stuff. My Dad admitted how much happier he was in the smaller IL apartment and wished he had moved sooner. By the time they had moved, they were too old and sick to make new friends and have a social life. [/quote]

That was me 10 years ago. I feel your pain!

Except parents hated their new place and pined for their old house and all their 30 years of junk.[/quote]

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