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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You just still have the aide show up, they are used to this. You don't give in. [/quote]

They are legally prevented from providing the services unless my mother consents. [/quote]

Hmm. They should have lots of tricks to elicit a grudging non-refusal of services. Otherwise, just get someone who is willing to come in. How do you think other families deal with this? Managing a dementia patient involves lots of lies, OP.

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That’s not how it works there, unfortunately. Services are by the book and on the books. I can’t just hire a random person who isn’t even qualified, to show up. Also she’s have to pay for it, did I mention she has a generous pension? She’s in the top 5-10% of income there, just with the pension for herself. This isn’t a country without a safety net where kids have to fund the bills for their underinsured parents.[/quote]

Which country? I’ve lived in Germany, France and the UK, and I’m having a hard time believing you.

Also, can you place her in an appropriate care home?

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You lost all credibility when you “place her in a care home.” Nothing is possible against her will. You can’t just put someone in a home unless you have a doctor and a judge decide on that (either through involuntarily committing or by having a judge declare her incompetent). This is not how it works there.[/quote]

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