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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD is 23.  Most of her friends have been raped.  She herself has been assaulted twice, forced to have sex by someone she was alone with willingly.  Both times she was drunk.

What has your young adult's experience been?

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My DD is young and not dating. But there is a similar experience with myself and my friend group. The things we have experienced or endured (e.g., groping at work, sexual assault and rape, being held down and told "you know you want it") would be shocking to people. Not only for the fact these things happened -which is bad enough- but the boys/men who did it. It's the all-American star QB, the "nice boy" from the family down the street. The son of the teacher or coach. It's not just the overt creeps doing things like this. And even if we told you, you wouldn't believe us.

And it's not an exception. [/quote]

Coming here to say this. I don't think I know a single adult woman who hasn't experienced some form of sexual coercion in a romantic relationship. I have. My sister and mother have. My friends. Their friends. Your friends. Men feel entitled to women's bodies. Whether it's in a relationship or not. Whether they even know you or not.

It's not that it's happening more. It's that we are not concealing it to protect men's feelings and our reputations anymore.[/quote]

I agree with what you've written.  Period.  I also believe there are some women who haven't yet recognized what they've experienced is assault/harrassment.  Prior to the mid-1970s, marital rape was not illegal and it wasn't until 1994 that all marital exemptions were removed.  I know from my own family (rural midwest) and my DH's family (South American) that too many people still hold women responsible for the action of men, that a husband is entitlted to his wife's body and that women should appreciate any attention from 'highly esteemed' men.  It's outrageous how women are asked to disregard bad behavior.

FWIW I'm in my late 50s. I revel in lower tolerance of this.  Enough of male fragility and holding women accountable/responsible for behavior of others. [/quote]

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