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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Moving parents into a house with your kids is a disaster. It’s exhausting and steals so much time from your spouse and children.

They should move to continuous care facilities where they can live independently and have their own identity and friends.

Reclaim your life and enable your dad to have one of his own,[/quote]

“Steals so much time.”

Wow. That’s really dehumanizing.  An aging person’s needs reduced to “theft.”

“They should move.”

No they shouldn’t. They should have the money to stay home with full time live in care and attention. But almost nobody can afford that. Just like the vast majority of older people can’t afford to just move to a “continuous care facility.”

There’s no one size fits all solution to these situations, least of all a glib dismissal of the elderly as not even worthy of human dignity.

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+1 Is it okay to say that having kids steals so much time from your spouse, so you should put your kids in boarding school and reclaim your life?

Some do feel this way, but I wonder why they have kids in the first place.

Your parents spent an enormous amount of time and money raising you. I don’t understand the selfishness of the adult children who won’t reciprocate. [/quote]

You choose to have kids and yes if they are a burden to you after they are 25 there is a problem, barring disabilities.

I chose to have kids and raised them to be independent and we see each other regularly but I will never be a burden to them while they are raising kids and loving their spouse.

My parents spent an enormous amount of time teaching me about personal responsibility and they did so by being a role model, not living above their means, paying off a modest house, saving a little in retirement and going to live in a CC neighborhood once they could not care for their own home anymore.

I cared for them when they were sick like I do for anybody, especially family, but they are not just living with me so they can spend all their money. Nope. 
 
Why did you have kids? to work the farm and support you? That is the most selfish thing I have ever heard of... reciprocate are you kidding me.

Grow up. If that is your plan get a job, put away for retirement, pay off your house and stop being a burden. [/quote]

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