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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you let her use FaceTime until midnight?[/quote]
+1 phone goes away by 9:15ish.  Lights out  around 9:45ish.

HW is always first, then everything else.

I have a 15 yr old DD, and an 18 yr old DC now in college. [/quote]

Did your kids push back against your restrictions?[/quote]
The 15 yr old, no, because DD knows she needs her sleep, otherwise she gets a migraine if she doesn't get enough sleep, and she knows it.

The 18 yr old did push back whey they were around 16, but this DC is much better at self regulating (15 yr old is not), and they got straight As in HS, in a magnet program. So, I let it go. But, even so, this DC went to bed around 11pm at the latest.  My spouse and I go to bed around 10pm, and if DC got too loud whether on the computer or phone (laughing, talking), then they knew that the phone was going to go away at night.  There were a few instances when they got too loud after 10, so we did have to remind them a few times. But, overall, this DC was pretty good about self regulating.

We had hard rules about electronic usage early on when they got their phones.  I think most kids have a hard time self regulating, even my oldest one. DC went through a period in ES/MS where they seemed addicted to computer games and would get angry after playing. So, we went cold turkey on them and took away the computer for a bit. They learned to eventually self regulate, but they knew that we would (and have) take away their electronics if usage got out of hand.

You have to set the rules and expectations early. Much harder to do that when they are older.

Of course, some kids are easier to manage than others, so ymmv.  But, I do think the earlier you set those expectations, the better.[/quote]

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