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[quote=Anonymous]		I wouldn’t be happy with this. Your husband needs to treat you on social media the way he would in public with the awareness that you and he won’t know the mental or emotional state of anybody reading it. My husband and I were at a jewelry store and they had Rolex watches. I’d never seen one up close and I asked if I could try it on for the sole purpose of posting it on Facebook. I did, my husband tagged me and misspelled Rolex so it was hopefully to anybody looking at it that no, he did not indeed buy me a Rolex. You wouldn’t believe the number of people who thought he had. One of them was a close family member who still believes he did even though I explained to her that no, I simply wanted to pose with it.

My husband posted a picture of himself in our driveway in a bathrobe looking just like Tony Soprano. It was awesome. He didn’t tag me in it and he got a female friend asking him out for drinks. My husband told her that his wife and him would be happy to see her, but no, she only wanted to see my husband. Since my husband knew her, he tried to explain that she had a boyfriend, we should go meet up with her, it’d be fine, and it took him awhile to see just how disrespectful she was to me, she knew he was married, he mentioned it to her several times, mentioned I’d be there, and no, I wasn’t welcome on what looked an awful lot like the planning for a date. I saw the messages and comments she was posting and sending, and it hurt. Ever since then, I’ve asked my husband to tag me in anything involving the house, the kids, anything that isn’t say a picture of his sandwich or something he finds funny that he wants to post. Once my husband tagged our former nanny in a picture that she’d taken and sent us and people asked if we were in a throuple or if one of us had a girlfriend. It was weird. Ever since then, we’ve had a rule that if someone takes a picture, the prson that is the same gender as the picture taker posts a thank you in the comments. And no, neither of us was banging the nanny.

Social media is not at all like being in a room with a bunch of people, and it took my husband a long time to see that. What is posted and commented on is there forever. Normally that’s nothing to worry about… until it is. I’ve also seen posts from married people that don’t mention their spouses and then I hear they are getting divorced.  It sometimes seems to me that those posts are trial balloons, they want to see what happens if they post and don’t mention the spouse before they decide to get divorced.

I would talk to your husband. I’d explain that it hurts you and it needs to stop. To those who say it isn’t a big deal, it isn’t.. until it happens to you.      
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