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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH gets so angry at his mother.  He cannot offer her grace for small things.  She is critical, nags, and is blind to her faults.  But I truly don’t think she deserves his scorn.   He was cared for as a child and while he wanted to get out, I think their relationship further declined when he got out of college.  She is not my favorite person in the world but I would like to help them get to a better place if I can.

She is lonely and wishes she had a better relationship I think.  But she doesn’t know how not to offer unsolicited advice which just starts him down a bad path.  Any ideas for anything I can do?  Or do I just let it be?   I do take the kids to hang out with her and while they roll their eyes at her, they roll their eyes at me too.

We see her every week to make sure things are going ok. So he hasn’t cut off contact.  Just a very poor relationship.

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[b]My thing is why do this? Either be "in" and work on it or be out completely (or nearly completely). Why choose the worse of both options? He's clearly miserable. So is she.

I think I'd have a conversation with him about the above and ask him "WTF do you want out of this?" and let's find a way to either end it or make it better.[/b]

And I say this as someone who endured a TRULY toxic and abusive relationship with one parent. And really struggles with resentment about the other one and has worked ro find the medium that works for me to be able to have a relationship.[/quote]

You’ve given me something to think about here. Thank you.  I think it’s a sense of family obligation and guilt that keeps him in her life but that isn’t enough for either of them.  [/quote]

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