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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you could be describing the relationship between my brother and our mom. It's a very tricky dynamic that's a lifetime in the making. Brother is fine and patient with everyone else, but is easily triggered by mom, who's hyper-critical and controlling. I tolerate her behavior better but grit my teeth sometimes. I see his responses to her as immature, but I blame her for the unhealthy dynamic b/c she's instigator and he's always reacting to her.

I don't think there's much anyone else could do if the parties involved don't want to seek therapy. Maybe get your H books on grayrock? [/quote]

Your brother’s relationship with your mom sounds closest to what I have seen.  I do feel for my MIL but to the other posters points, I absolutely know she created this mess.

He and I have been married for 25 years now and i met him when we were in our 20’s.  His tolerance with her has dropped over the years.  I would love for him to get back to where he was 20 years ago - mostly for his own peace of mind. I have stayed out of their relationship for most of our time together but have been wondering lately if there is anything I should be doing.

To be clear, I am on team DH all the way. I don’t really like my MIL and I can totally see why she triggers him - she is passive aggressive with me but I just let it slide.  I do wonder if it would be better for DH if he can get there too. [/quote]

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