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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At age 11,I personally think it’s good for the kid to understand at least at a high-level, that both parents are contributing to their expenses. I’m sure some of your concern is that it’s your ex and you’re probably biased to them making a decision separate from you.

I am not divorced. However, at a relatively young age  or so, we told our kids, for example, that the credit card we swipe is not  an unlimited pot of funds… that although dad works and mom may not that it’s not “dads house” …. That just because mom does most of the shopping that “only mom buys me things”. This is not making finances our kids issue, but making things relevant in teaching.  [/quote]

Of course I’ve discussed things at this elementary level and more. That does not mean dc needs know exactly what percentage each parent contributes and more than they need to know our salaries or what we paid for the house.[/quote]
Yes, people don’t usually share their salaries, and you should teach your child not to ask people what they earn, but what you paid for your house is not confidential information. Anyone can look it up. While it’s not important information for a 12 year old to know, it’s also not worth trying to hide, either. Perhaps child was curious about what houses cost or how one parent could afford the house on one income?

My kids are teenagers, but we’re going through a divorce and the kids know that one parent has an earning potential far above the other parent. They’re relieved to know that the lower earner will not end up destitute because the higher earner will contribute more towards their expenses. We don’t give them actual figures, but they’ve expressed concern about such things, and they were reassured that we’re not fighting about money.[/quote]

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