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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am feeling a lot of guilt about activities/family balance for my two kids and wondering if anyone can relate/advise.

I have two kids - DD (7) and DS (almost 5). DS's main struggles are a language disorder and ADHD. He is conversational but has a very hard time attending to activities and has some receptive issues that make it hard for him to follow directions without pretty explicit instruction from someone who gets his issues.

I would like to get him in soccer or something like that, but I am worried that he will not be able to participate at an age-appropriate level and that could be a mess with a team sport. He also is in both a private preschool and the FCPS early childhood class-based program so he has really long days and is exhausted at the end of the day. He does speech privately 2X a week at school and we are looking into private swim lessons but the teacher I want to use has a wait list.

DD is a very outgoing, high-energy kid. She is in sports/activities 3-5 nights a week, depending on the week, and really thrives being on the go. Most of them are close to our home, at a time that works well with our schedule (2 working parents), or we can carpool so the logistics aren't too hard, but a parent is taking her to stuff more weeknights than not.

I feel like things appear very uneven in our family because we are doing all of these things for DD while DS hangs out at home with the other parent. We try hard to not have him tagalong on a week night because he is tired. I know I shouldn't care, but I feel like neighbors and acquaintances judge us for expending all this energy running DD around and not doing the same for our other kids. I do not think that DS particularly cares but he also doesn't necessarily have the language to express that.

Maybe I am asking for permission to just let this go? Would also love any suggestions for an activity that could work for a kid like him. I would love to help him be confident and have fun doing something just for him! Thanks in advance. [/quote]
If anyone notices or judges this then they truly have no life. [/quote]

No one is judging you. Get over yourself. He's 4 and it sounds like you always have a parent home with him every day. If it were me I'd cut my DD's activities down to 3 a week so we could get full family time but that's just me. [/quote]

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