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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't worry so much about getting paranoid, but I do worry about getting jaded and cynical -- not just in relation to politics, but in relation to other issues as well.  I feel like I have seen too many people who seemed made for each other get divorced and mistreat each other and their kids in the process, and I've seen too many incompetent people get promoted, etc.

I work for a university and one of my colleagues retired and his incompetent successor dismantled the program my colleague literally spent decades building -- mostly out of spite.  This man is literally watching his life's work disappear in front of his eyes. (Yeah, he's retired but he still pays attention and knows these things.)

I am watching my greedy relatives fight over an inheritance and the person to whom the funds belong isn't even dead yet!  
I've seen bright, capable students do stupid things and die in random things like car accidents before their lives have even begun. I'm almost sixty and sometimes it seems like the sadness in life outweighs the joy, and it also feels like a lot of people's success and happiness in life feels pretty randomly distributed.  good people get nothing and jerks get rewarded.

I don't expect to be ranting about Fox news, but I do worry that I will be jaded and cynical in my old age.[/quote]

OP here, yup, that too. I have seen such crazy in the workplace. We have insanity going on over money in our family too, but I always thought the players would be trouble. Were you surprised?  I knew who I couldn't trust since I was a teenager, maybe younger. Yup, I've seen jerks rewarded and good people screwed over. I try to be grateful for little things and not get jaded, but it is a nutty world out there.[/quote]

Oh, yeah, we have a situation in our family where an executor has been found to be stealing from the estate in a number of relatively small, sneaky ways. There weren’t huge amounts of money involved, so we couldn’t help but wonder, what was the point of doing that? Did she hate her sibling so much that she just wanted to pull something over on her? Is she a little mentally ill, or is her brain aging to the point that her sense of ethics has disappeared?

This was someone that I never would have suspected of stealing or lying in this way. The only thing that makes sense is some kind of effects of aging, although the executor is only in her mid sixties, so not all that old. 
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An executor is allowed to take a payment for services, but there are regulations.  Regarding how much. Was it beyond that amount?[/quote]

The problem, apparently, was that the executor was not accounting for the amounts she was taking.From what I was told, when she found cash in the house, she just kept it for herself, when she sold items from the house, she just pocketed the money. It was a thousand dollars here, a hundred there, and ended up adding up to thousands of dollars that she just kept without including the amounts in the total she was turning in on court paperwork.

So it looked as though the estate was smaller than it actually was. When they divided the estate, they were each supposed to get 50%. The one sibling got 50% and the sibling who was executor got her 50% plus the executor fee PLUS the thousands that she had simply taken without accounting for. She eventually got found out and had to pay her sibling back and also pay fines to the court.

When I heard about it, I just thought that it seemed like a silly risk to take for the sums of money involved. That’s why I think that my cousin must have been affected by either mental illness or just some kind of cognitive decline. It didn’t make sense to do what she did and my sense is that it is not something she would have done when she was younger. She had appeared to be a very professional business woman who ended up stealing from her own sibling. She and her husband have moved away, so I don’t know what’s happening with them now, but I do hope she is getting some kind of help. [/quote]

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