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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you:
- Married or met spouse by 30
- Made $150K or more by 30
- Owned SFH by 35 
- Graduated with zero or manageable debt
- Remained thin and healthy throughout 
- Continued with hobbies or activities or travel  to make a fulfilling life

How did you manage it? What are your secrets? Did you have your mind set on all of this and what sacrifices did you make that others didn’t? Where do you think others around you went wrong, so to speak? Did you have any adversity in your life? How did you avoid all the societal traps that prevent people from achieving this? Conversely, do you think this life is as “perfect”’as it seems or is there more to it? What advice would you your children, or 18-year-olds today? [/quote]

Huge amount of luck, and marrying someone with wealthy parents who helped us with down payment, and that we bought in 2011 before prices were crazy.

I went to a state flagship and my parents covered it. I haven't gone to grad school bc I'm reluctant to take on the debt and went into fields where it's not that necessary (journalism, writing).

I married by 30 to the person I was dating at around that age -- some amount of pragmatism in the choice because I knew I wanted to have two kids by 35. He's a very kind person and I do love him. I'm sure there are many other men I could have gotten along with well enough to marry, too.

Im thin and have been a size two for the last 20 years -- I'm probably too vain to let myself go. I exercise every day and don't eat that much. This is probably due to some deep seated belief that I need to be thin and nice looking in order to achieve my goals. I do feel braver when facing the world when I look good.

I do have adversity (sibling with a severe mental illness and dysfunctional family of origin). I think this actually helped me go out into the world and find a place for myself there re: husband, home,  -- I didn't really have my parents to fall back on (I wouldn't have been able to move home after I left for college at 18).

I would say I am very good at accepting the reality around me and making the best of it -- I don't think it terms of what ifs and ideals.
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