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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, tbh, you saying “I’m fine” when you’re not is kinda passive aggressive. So next time, change your language and use your words. “I’m a little sad right now, I don’t want to talk about it yet, I will later, and I don’t want you to be hurt, right now I need to be alone.”[/quote]

Fair enough. When Im hurt im so low. Dont want to talk to anyone. 
Im in the wrong too[/quote]

"I'm fine" is not passive aggressive necessarily. It's part of the unspoken rules (see the other thread) that means I don't want to talk about it right now. [/quote]

New poster, and I disagree. I think may be a tool used that way, but it's not conducive to healthy conversations. That said, even if it is an unspoken rule that we're all supposed to abide by, it's clear that OP's mom doesn't respond that way. OP says she is sad or upset, and her mom clearly recognizes that fact, so to her it might feel like OP is lying or just avoiding a conversation. So OP might benefit from changing her approach. Being truthful (“I’m a little sad right now") and clear about her preferences (
I don’t want to talk about it yet") seems like a healthier approach to dealing with her mom.[/quote]

I can see that. I think "I don't want to talk about it right now" is the right tone. OPs feelings matter and she shouldn't even have to express every emotion for her mom.[/quote]

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