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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is going to copy your behavior. If you lose your cool, don't be surprised when she loses her cool over something later. [/quote]

Op - yes I realize that. The hard thing is that I keep my cool 90% of the time but it’s like a needle in your skin. You can ignore it for a while but it finally wears you down and then you feel it and need to get rid of it and it hurts.

She is disruptive to the rest of our family. I can’t parent my other children when she is having these episodes. Nor can I do my job or take care of anything else in our lives other than her. [/quote]

What kind of episodes? How is she disruptive to the family? How is she being disrespectful? All i can say is that at 8 she absolutely feels your unspoken resentment or unmet expectations, she could be lashing out or this could be her way of getting your attention.[/quote]
 
Op - examples of her disruptions would be screaming and crying when I tell her that I won't be home to do her hair in the morning (one morning out of a hundred) because I have to take her younger brother to an early morning doctor appointment.  Disrespectful - not listening and having an attitude in front of others when I am trying to coach her in a sport (I am the coach). Disrespectful - always having an attitude with her younger sister and talking down to her and being mean.  Then when her younger sister doesn't want to play with her she gets all mad and cries and screams. 
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She lives in a chaotic house, where mom is overwhelmed and as the eldest she likely gets the least amount of affection. Also you coaching her team does not help because coaching is at the end of the day about critical feedback. She is responding to her environment. As the adult, it's your responsibility to change the dynamics in this relationship. [/quote]

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