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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is at a magnet school in Moco and I'm not seeing this at all, at least not as a widespread phenomenon. The college admissions rat race can be awful, but a lot of it depends on how the parents support their kids and manage expectations. Is my kid grinding through and sleep deprived at times? Yes, but not all the time thankfully. Most importantly, DC feels satisfied and fulfilled by engaging with a curriculum that is appropriately challenging. DC sets their pace, not me, and we don't force any ECs they don't enjoy. So, even with very high stats and rigor, they probably won't get into HYPMS, but their college readiness will be outstanding and I feel confident they will do very well wherever they land. Most of the parents I know have the same attitude. There are a few extreme "Harvard, MIT or bust" parents who make their kids' lives miserable but that is the exception not the rule ime. Of course, mental health issues have intensified since the pandemic. I could see the combo of high-pressure schools, high-pressure parents, and that creating a toxic stew but, again, I haven't seen much of that in my kid's circles.[/quote]
+1 DC just graduated from magnet in MCPS.  They put the stress on themselves. I kept telling DC that getting a B on a report card is not a big deal, but they were adamant that they didn't want a B.  IMO, it's because this DC isn't good at anything else other than academics, so they really wanted to shine in this area.

The only thing we pushed DC on was getting exercise and some fresh air.  I hounded DC about it.

They are not at  a T25,  in part because we could not afford them, but they are happy where they are at.

Sometimes, the pressure is not from the parents, but themselves.

For the cases where parents are pushing, then yea, it's sad.  My younger DC is not at a magnet, not academically inclined, and that's ok. I just want DC to try their best. This DC has strengths outside academia, and I'm proud of that, too.[/quote]

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