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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know.  I don't operate like this at all.

I would have said something direct way back when to her.  You say you don't like gossips but you're kind of part of the problem.  Don't ignore people at a wedding.[/quote]

DP. I don't see anything wrong with OP's slow fade? I get that some people would have said something directly, but I also think that often doesn't accomplish anything. In any case, it does not sound like OP contributed to the problem in the past and I don't consider her desire to avoid interacting with them now as gossip or contributing to a negative dynamic.

I'd also be pissed if I found out a friend of mine was gossiping about my marriage or kids with others. It's a betrayal.

I wouldn't outright ignore but I would not engage at all. Tight smile, at most a "nice to see you" and then move on. If I got seated at the same table, I'd position myself so I was as far as possible from the former friend and then engage whoever was in the other direction in conversation. It would be uncomfortable but I could get through it.[/quote]

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