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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I helped my sister who had a major mental illness beginning in her teens.    She was in hospitals a lot as a teen, was on strong medications that were tough on the body.    She managed pretty well on disability but I paid for all the extras.  Otherwise everyone is making it on their own.  [/quote]

Similar. I have a sister who is on disability for mental health issues. Basically has never functioned as an independent adult with a job.

Parents are gone, but they did buy her a house before they died in a very low COL area.

I would be strategic OP, as I’m similar. I’m a GS14 so make some money (more than my parents ever imagined) but my spouse make 3x my salary. So any help really comes from my spouse, and we need retirement college savings, and maybe even one of own kids need help someday. If your DH is a BigLaw partner making $Ms, that may be a different story, you could setup somewhat like buying a cheap property and helping them get on disability as appropriate (home doesn’t count as assets against disability).

Otherwise, you owe them nothing. And my sister is generally nice except when she is in crisis. I would probably step in if she would become homeless. I’m on fence on what to do when her car dies. She is in s rural town so buses are limited, but she doesn’t really NEED a car so I have to think if I want to help there. But like someone said, structural investments. That’s it. [/quote]

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