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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Harder. More college applications, more tryouts and disappointments, more friend dramas, more expenses. [/quote]

…Are you comparing having 3 kids to having 1/2, or having 3 little kids to having 3 big kids?

My 3 are teens now and I think it’s easier than the little kid years, but life is crazy busy! (Which is exactly what we expected…they are a lot of fun and our family has a good time together - lots to look forward to, OP!)[/quote]

It sounds like your kids have zero academic, emotional or friend issues. Which is lucky and uncommon with 3 kids, unless maybe all are boys? I’d rather potty train 100 kids than deal with teen friend drama. [/quote]

But with three they can lean on their siblings during friend drama (hate to say this, book look at how the Kardashians rally around each other) and for the rest of their lives. I instilled in my kids that your siblings are your best friends. Of course they fight about stupid things but they are incredibly close. I couldn’t have gotten that dynamic with two. With three it’s less about personalities going together seamlessly (which never happens) and it’s more about the relationship. And if two are fighting at least they both have one sibling they’re not fighting with who can act as peacemaker. With two there is no peacemaker. [/quote]

Not everyone gets that dynamic with 3. Are yours all the same gender? Are their ages relatively close and spaced evenly? Do they have complementary temperaments? Yes, some of this is parenting but some of it is luck, too. Some families don't have a peacemaker at all -- that's a volunteer position and sometimes no one wants it.

I also admire the Kardashian's family dynamic but I think to some degree it's because they got fortunate with gender dynamics and the way the kids are clustered. The three oldest girls are close in age and personality, and all girls. Rob was the baby and the only boy and got doted on by all his sisters. And then Kendall and Kylie are like a separate set and have each other. So everyone has someone except Rob, who has a kid of place of honor as the lone boy, especially after their dad died. And even with that, there are some issues there, despite their closeness. Rob and Khloe both have issues with self-esteem and their place in the family, there are sometimes weird dynamics between the Jenners and the Kardashians. It's not all smooth sailing.[/quote]

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