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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Based on my careful internet research, it is[b] fairly common[/b] for cyclists to become obsessed to the point of practically abandoning their spouse and kids for their hobby.

If you are contemplating marriage/long-term commitment to this guy, figure out whether you enjoy having lots of time to yourself.  I do, but not everyone does.

If you are contemplating kids with this guy, have a conversation NOW about how he thinks parenting responsibilities should be shared and how much he plans to adjust his lifestyle to kids.  Depending on his answers, think about whether that sounds like a division of labor/time that works for you.

I have a time-consuming sport-hobby.  So does my spouse.  We both indulge our hobby less than we would like because family, and also negotiate so we both get about equal time for our sport-hobby.  It works for us, but it took a lot of conversations to get to a good spot and we were both willing to sacrifice some of our lifestyle for our kids/family.

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I'm a DH who cycles. I don't think it's that common. I'm in a dues paying cycling club with about 100 members. There's probably only 10-15 members who are "obsessed" and seem to spend almost all their waking hours on cycling or thinking about cycling. And even these diehards tend to be single and/or retired. Moreover, there are several characteristics of the sport that will tend to limit how much time one can spend. In most of the US cycling season is APril-October. So there's six months where he won't be cycling much or just a few hors indoors on a trainer.

If he tries to cycle too much, he'll likely burn himself out or get injured. So biking 3 hours everyday is almost impossible unless he has pro-level fitness. Most serious cyclists are under 10 hours a week for 4-5 months out of the year. You can't maintain peak fitness for 12 months so he'll have to dial back a good portion of the year.[/quote]

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