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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tonight is a tough one. Asking him to change his long standing plans last minute  would be objectionable to me but I’d do it. As to everything else, What would you rather
 him do instead?  Asking him not to plan when there’s nothing else going on is kind of crazy. [/quote]
I don’t want him to not do these things, that’s not my point. But he has been enjoying so much time freedom, I just figured it would be nice if he could accommodate MY time the way I do his. This felt do-able. He’s been there all day, it’s not unreasonable to say you have to leave to do something for your wife. It’s not like I keep him on a leash. In fact, that’s what makes me most angry! He does whatever, yet he can’t even give me this. [/quote]
Op here, and the look he gave me when he said “I’ll try” was like, “and if I don’t, what are you going to do?”

And what AM I going to do? He’s right. Nothing. I’ll be disappointed, but apparently I have no right to even that.[/quote]

Now you sound whiny.  What’s really going on here?   [/quote]
I don’t know! I can’t explain it. I feel like I’ve dropped everything to cater to him these past weeks and he isn’t willing to budge an inch. It’s a couple hours after he’s spent nearly two handfuls of hours at his event. I’m just feeling emotional. I don’t feel supported when all I’ve been doing is supporting. It’s sucks.[/quote]

Tell us more about you dropping everything to cater to him.  Naturally, this is where your resent is coming from - you feel you drop everything at logistical and emotional cost to you and he cannot show up to a work celebration after a full day of fun?[/quote]
Pretty much exactly this. [/quote]

So you don't have to tell us, but are you clear on why you are dropping things?  Do you feel you have to?  Does he understand this? Is he asking you to?  It sounds like he doesn't understand the resentment is building because you are picking more slack than you original thought for his me-time?  (I'm just spit-balling here).[/quote]

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