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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He doesn’t get to insist the child do anything during the child’s time with you. [/quote]

Also the ex is clearly using the card to track what the OP is doing, not just the kid. By tracking the kid, the ex is also tracking OP when OP is with the kid, basically. Ex will claim that's not what it's about but it IS the end effect.

I think a lot of PPs are missing the abusive details OP provided--which include financial abuse, which in turn tells us that the ex is into using finances to control others.

OP, you noted that you think ex will "take it out" on your kid if you try to take the card or have kid leave the card at the house during your custody time. Can you tell the ex (in writing so you have a record of it) that you will be having kid leave the wallet at home when with you, and if ex disciplines or punishes kid for not carrying it, you will...Is there something you can do here, OP?

I'd also be worried that he is teaching your kid that obeying dad in all things yields cash rewards, basically. Unfortunately your ex is likely to claim he's just "teaching kid how to handle money responsibly" blah blah--isn't he? It's going to be hard to counter that. I'd find ways to ensure kid, on your time, is doing things like volunteering (if old enough), participating in community- or faith-based groups/organizations, anything that gives the message that giving to others and helping others is the right thing to do. Bigger-picture stuff. Because dad sounds materialistic as well as controlling. [/quote]

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