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[quote=Anonymous]A remark like that to a child is reprehensible.

But I say this as gently as possible....

You lost your mother just days ago.
You had her viewing hours before you made this post.
The incident occurred literally at the viewing.

My suggestion is that emotions are high and you thinking about this at all is displacement.  At a time of grief, particularly after a "long battle" that was likely challenging for all involved, we look to find a distraction and redirect our sad emotions of grief into angry emotions at someone's actions.

I say this because I did it myself.  My brother did some awful things leading up to and around my mother's funeral.  We had a blow up fight and our relationship has never been the same.  That is fine, but when I look back I wish I had ignored that issue for a week or so and focused instead on my mom.  The outcome may have been the same, but we probably could have gotten there with less drama and I wouldn't regret what I was focusing on at the time I could have been processing grief.

So my suggestion is that you avoid talking to your sister at all if possible for several days.  Focus on other things.  And come back to it later.[/quote]

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