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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your proposal is great.
You raised your children, now it is your daughter's turn to raise hers.  It is not your job.

My Mom was clear that she would do occasional date night or weekend getaway childcare but she would not do day-to-day care so parents could work.   I think she did step in a couple times when my brother had to travel for work and my SIL could not change her work schedule, but that was probably 3x in 10 years. I chose to stay home and/or work part time when my kids were young, so it was never an issue for me.  (My MIL would have been more than willing to do this for us, but that "free" childcare would certainly have come with a price.)

I do think many grandparents choosing to provide full time childcare is just a continuation of helicopter-type parenting where parents feel obligated to solve all their children's problems for them.   Don't fall into this trap.  Live your own life and tell your kids they need to live theirs in their own way.

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My parents were clear and upfront too (same as yours) - yes to occasional care for evenings out, maybe a weekend, and emergencies. Similar for most families we know. I don’t know many grandparents who provide full time care.

My kids are only teens, and I can already tell you I would not want to provide full time childcare for a grandchild. Occasional, definitely yes (assuming physically able). Frankly, we’d be more likely to help with daycare costs than physically help with everyday care (if the situation were to warrant needing help). I would not want to be responsible for a small child full time and also would worry about blurring of boundaries/potential conflicts.[/quote]

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