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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a lot of men don't "see" things that we women see, or if they do.. they just don't care.  If it's not a big deal to him, he'll ignore it. But, since you care about it, and you ask him to do something, he'll do it (hopefully without making a fuss about it).

I am experiencing the same thing with my DH.  He cannot multi-task, and he doesn't "see" things that need doing.  I always have to meal plan because if I leave it up to him, we would end up eating frozen food or eating out because he didn't plan for anything.  I meal plan, and he executes. At least he does it without complaining.

Been married for 20 years.  I don't think he's gonna change now. He's 59.[/quote]

Sounds like my DH.
I have begun telling him precisely what I want him to do. I write it down.
He does it sometimes.
For example, his job is to vacuum and dust our small house every weekend.
How often does he do this? About as much as a teenager does. I usually have to remind him.
We need a new water filter. I've sent him articles. Has he read them? Has he looked at Consumer Reports? No.
So, no water filter. I refuse to do the things he won't do. Our garden is full of weeds. I've asked him to weed. Has he done it? No. So garden is weedy. He complains that our house looks terrible. So, weed, I tell him. Uh, he shuffles off.
I don't know what to tell you, OP. I hate living like this, but I've just stopped. Fortunately, our kids are grown. I eat leftovers, even though he's supposed to cook, or I go out and buy a sandwich. I cooked for 20+ years, and I told him I am not cooking any more. 
Does he cook? On occasion, when he's hungry.
He's starting to realize that I won't do all the things I used to do. I have a full-time job too, but he makes more money, so apparently thinks he's more important, and his time is better used working and not doing anything around the house. So, it doesn't get done. If our house finally falls apart, well, I guess I'll move out.
In the meantime, I write him notes, and sometimes he does what he's told.
It's so frustrating, but there's nothing I can do about it. [/quote]

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