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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Christmas--beyond religion--is about children.

Grandparents at Christmas create great memories for children.

Grandparents don't last forever, but your children's Christmas memories will last for the rest of their lives.

You, your husband, and your children are very fortunate to have both sets of in-laws/grandparents alive and willing to spend Christmas day with you. In order to alleviate some concerns about waiting on the in-laws, why not order prepared food to serve in addition to whatever you like to prepare.

Is it selfish of you ? Yes with respect to your children and to your in-laws it is a bit selfish and clearly lacking in Christmas spirit.[/quote]
This is BS [b]and I’ll prove it to you.[/b]

My grandparents died when I was 14. Not too long ago I was reminiscing with my mom about my memories of Christmas at my grandparents house, and how I loved those long Christmas days, spending the morning opening presents at home with cinnamon rolls, and then spending the evening with my cousins—the smell of the fireplace, grandpa’s traditional dinner, the kids’ table—until it was pitch black outside. I always fell asleep in the car on the way home.

She told me I was mistaken, we never spent Christmas there, it was always Christmas Eve and we’d head there right after Christmas Eve Mass. For twenty years I had assumed it was Christmas Day. It wasn’t. And [b]my memories are still just as joyous[/b].

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You have not proven anything to me beyond the fact that being with your grandparents during the Christmas holidays gave you great joy and happy memories. And that your mother was not selfish during this magical time for children. Moreover, you miss my point; grandparents should not be an afterthought or considered to be a nuisance at Christmas, Christmas Eve, or during any type of family celebration.[/quote]
Now you’re making things up. Not anywhere did OP say they wouldn’t be with the grandparents during the Christmas holiday. Just not on Christmas DAY. I’m fact, go back and read the OP again because OP explicitly said that her DH was planning an alternate date. [/quote]

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