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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I suspect there is more to it than you posted. My first thought was the same as the first response. Own your own feelings! If someone says something that makes you feel so bad you post about it on DCUM, why is that?

There is nothing wrong with being retired at an early age. However, you don’t do nothing all day. You may not have structure but you do something. You sleep/nap, or watch TV, or people watch out the window… you do something. I suspect your conversations with your friends are contentious. I don’t know if it is you or them. If it is multiple people “making you feel this way, think about why that is. You may need new friends! You may also be bragging in some manner that is rubbing people the wrong way. Just give it some thought.

I have two close neighbors who do not work. One has school-aged children and she outsources a lot. She is very open that her working spouse does the laundry. She cooks, but does not grocery shop. She also takes the kids to practices/appointments. And, she is open that she has a ton of downtime that she enjoys. This would get boring to me after awhile, but she owns it and is happy with her life.

The other neighbor is now an empty-nester. Her husband is a high earner; she chooses not to work. I genuinely wonder what she does all day. She may play golf or tennis once a week. Otherwise, she seems bored. I hear other people make gentle suggestions to her on things to do. I think this is because she is constantly talking about how she has nothing to do! Just an anecdote to share that may give you perspective.[/quote]

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