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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parent here, not OP, I’m burnt out in my situation. I can’t see DD ever getting out of depression, anxiety- she’s literally ‘killing’ me inside, the stress everyday, the buildup of years dealing with her insecurity is just pushing me off a ledge.

Two more years until college which I can see her going but I can’t see her going away to school. If she goes here, she will be at our home every weekend.  She doesn’t want to take medicine so I do.

Does depression ever really go away?  I’ve tried everything with her, she hoes to therapy (eh, helpful), doesn’t want meds, doesn’t exercise, doesn’t eat right, doesn’t want to meditate or do breathing.  Has a couple friends now but it’s so up and down.  I’m going to start drinking![/quote]

22:26 here.  I gently suggest you have some joint sessions with your DD's counselor and consider getting your own counselor.  It's important that you establish reasonable boundaries and expectations - including boundaries that protect your own mental health.

If your DD is unwilling to take the steps needed to manage her depression (medication is often a critical piece), you should not enable her behaviors.  You should not be her crutch to managing her insecurities.  I get it, it's hard. It's painful.  I've been through it with my DSs and my DH.  I say something along the lines of, 'I love you and want to help you.  I have told you that X, Y, Z are considered best practices in managing depression yet you refuse to try them.  You continue to do what you've always done and expect different results.  There's nothing more I can do for you until you make different choices.  I'm happy to make/take you to appointments, pick up medications and pay for things.  I'm happy to go with you to counseling to discuss this but, for my own mental health, I cannot enable your dysfunction."

Yeah, I know it can sound harsh but when you're living with someone that refuses to take an extended hand, you have to be direct and protect yourself.  Hugs. [/quote]

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