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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it unreasonable for me to have anxiety over things like this? I've had a doctor, with whom I've had a pretty good relationship with for more than a decade while my health issue  was minor- but things have changed in a big way- my meds are changing, many with risk/benefit types outcome,  and the risks are big.  Very big. My condition is frightening,  too. This doctor  seems surprised that I have questions, fears, etc, and makes me feel kind of childish. He also forgets some pretty big details, and if I ask, he'll say, "Oh yeah, that too..etc." ( WHAT?a :shock: )
I'm already frightened by my condition,  and apparently asking questions is an annoyance or something.

I already know the social rules- don't bring things up in social settings as our friends  don't need an organ recital at our age, don't bother our kids so we aren't a burden to them. So, no outlets.

I just could use a hug and some good advice and confidence. Like I'm 10 years old.   Am I wrong? I have had several tearful nights. I know my age,  but is that relevant?  No caring anymore for the older ladies over 55? Someone here will call me a self absorbed boomer, I am sure.  Fine- I'll just ignore it. 
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You can totally tell your friends and kids.   Don’t call your kids in the MOTN sobbing that you’re going to die or anything that makes them responsible for your happiness, but do tell them what’s going on and that you’re nervous.   And you need at least one friend that you CAN call sobbing in the middle of the night.   Your doctor isn’t going to be your emotional support person through this - you will need other people!  I have been that person for friends and it’s an honestly an honor and privilege.  Let your friends in. [/quote]

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