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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read No Bad Kids. You need to change how you think about this and it requires you to understand where your kid is developmentally. In short, being in trouble does nothing to help them learn to do better - and learning to do better should be your real goal.[/quote]
+1 for No Bad Kids.  Absolute game changer for this age.[/quote]

It really is, it takes so much stress and struggle out of the equation for both the parent and child. Also as someone who manages people at work, and it exhausts my executive function, I really needed a framework where I am not constantly tracking punishments, rewards, time outs, issuing threats, etc. I don’t have it left in me at the end of the day to complete a sticker chart or have my precious little time with my kids be half spent with them in “time out.” So, this works really well because it gets good results but lets me be my kids’ ally and teacher rather than their judge and jury.[/quote]

Okay so what is the No Bad Kids response to a kid peeing on the floor on purpose? This is not snark. I am genuinely asking. And I swear I have read it. [/quote]

I think the textbook answer would be 1) don’t give a big reaction. They are testing limits and they see this is a big reaction getter from you. They want to keep testing to see if you are stable and calm when this happens. 2) Natural consequence. In this case they have to clean the floor.

Beyond that, it is all about you and your reaction. Why did this make you so angry? They are not disrespecting you, they are asking for love and attention the only way they know how. Next time you will need to bring the kid in the bathroom with you or (if age appropriate) put them in their crib in order to prevent the behavior from repeating.[/quote]

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