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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks for the responses.  [b]I do wonder if I’m overreacting or misdirecting feelings,[/b] so it’s helpful to read that and think more about my reaction. That said, I also feel like you just show up when someone dies — I told all of my friends not to go through hassle to come to funeral (it was on a weekday, all have kids including toddlers, etc) and they all just came. Some came from far afield. Others who were far and couldn’t come sent a card or a food gift card or flowers. Even a card just meant so much.  She didn’t do any of that, which really made me second guess how much I want to bother investing.[/quote]

Yes, you are.

Also, consider her connection here. Does she even know your dad? Despite being friends, her connection is via her brother’s marriage. She might feel like she’s intruding on your grief and your family if she gets too involved. These situations can be incredibly awkward and difficult especially dealing with people who are grieving. I can just as easily see a post on here with someone complaining that they had to make time at their father’s funeral to entertain their husband’s sister who shouldn’t have come bc it wasn’t even her family.[/quote]

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