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You don't seem to understand what they can and cannot do here, OP.

Of course they can't drop in for visits. Flights or drives add up, in time and expense. And visiting wouldn't help with anything if you're whining about managing doctors and bills!

But you can tell the nursing home to call THEM when something needs to happen. Medical management, appointments, prescriptions, bills, etc, can all be done online. If she needs to be physically accompanied to the doctor, OK maybe you can do that, but you'll need to be very sure it's not a frivolous visit.

You're really trying very hard to be the martyr here. Some people enjoy it, because then they feel they have the moral high ground and are at liberty to complain a lot. Don't be like that.
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I'm not the OP, but I think you're out of line, PP. What qualifies you to comment on this matter? Were you ever in this exact position? One of the things you would know if you were is that when it comes to doctors and retirement community/AL staff, they are busy and prefer to deal with one relative--the closest, most involved one. They're not going to call a relative who lives hours away to report on or discuss issues that are best dealt with in person. And trust me, the older the elderly parent gets, the more issues that will crop up. The OP will get stuck with most of the tasks by virtue of proximity, even though many things can get done online. [/quote]

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