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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to stop focusing on the content of her anxieties and concerns. Assuming you are not jealous, then the real issue is that you feel like she is no longer listening to your issues and concerns. I would not bring this up directly yet. I would start with “hey, I know you have a lot going on and I’m happy to listen. But I have something important I was hoping to talk about first.” See how it goes.[/quote]

Agree the real issue is that our interactions seem totally one-way these days. But I do think the content of her anxieties is an issue because, as some of the responses here demonstrate, I think she might jump to the conclusion that this is just jealousy of her new wealth. But I've spent a lot of time thinking about and discussing it with my DH, and I really don't think I AM jealous. I really think the issue is that I just feel completely neglected in our friendship.

I also wonder if the dynamic that is emerging, where I just sit and listen to her talk about there rich person problems but don't get any reciprocation, reflects a change in her perception of me now that she is a lot wealthier than I am. Like I wonder if self-consciously she has started thinking of her problems as more important than mine, or herself as more important in our relationship, because she is entering another wealth class. I don't know for sure that's the case, but because this has felt like a somewhat abrupt change in how she interacts with me, I do wonder. Which is why I'd like to address it now rather than just ride it out as she adjusts to her new life.[/quote]

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