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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He sounds like my DH, who doesn’t have a clue about a lot of things but is incredibly rigid and defiant when informed of something like the foil situation you described. In our case, we don’t love our house. Everything else is similar down to DH claiming I am “abusive.”

The reality is that DH’s family of origin has a lot of mental health and developmental disorders. He was diagnosed with ADHD and HFA as an adult, although he claims that the many specialists involved in this long diagnostic process are wrong. Anyway, DH perceives any feedback or communication short of silence or a compliment to be mean, angry, argumentative, critical, etc. His parents walked on eggshells around him and his sister as a coping mechanism to manage their issues amidst cultural resistance to diagnosis or support, but unfortunately that resulted in his perception now that anything short of adulation is “abuse”.

I would consider myself to be in a situation that involves emotional abuse, but I don’t have a good plan to get out of this that protects my DD. I’m working on documentation of both DH’s behavior and medical situation in the hopes that it would protect me in a custody soJustin. [/quote]

OP here. PP, big hugs to you. Your situation really does sound similar, down to his parents "walking on eggshells" around him. 
How old is your daughter? 
As you said yourself, the issue is that there is hardly a way to avoid communicating with him at least regarding the child, even after a divorce. In my own situation, I couldn't keep the house if we divorce, [b]and all of us adore it.[/b]
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OP, and I say this gently, do you all adore that house more than your own health and happiness? How about your daughter's?

I think that house is an idol.[/quote]

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