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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I’m one of four. Let me tell you a success story - not at all saying that this is universal, just an anecdote to show how great 4 kids can be.
I love it. It was an amazing way to grow up. My siblings and I are not all close all the time, but there’s a baseline level of love and support and I know I can rely on them for anything. 
My parents both worked. My dad was breadwinner and worked 9-4, my mom is a nurse and worked evenings and weekends for much of her career. It was a grind for them, but they made it happen and even managed to put us through private school. [b]We didn’t really go on vacation and we didn’t have really nice clothes or shoes or anything, but I didn’t really care about that until I was high school age. [/b]When I was in college, my mom went back to school for her masters and started working full time again. 
When I had my first, my MIL (who only has two kids and has no filter) made a comment to me about how families with more kids than parents make her sad because the younger kids don’t get enough attention.[b] I was shocked because I had literally never considered my upbringing this way.[/b] If anyone, the younger siblings got more attention because the older ones were obsessed with them and wanted to help. When the older siblings left the house, the younger ones got more 1:1 time with my parents. 
All of this is to say that big families can be incredible![/quote]

This sounds awful, sorry. And your MIL was right![/quote]

PP. I promise you I have way better memories of my family’s camping trips than DH has of his family’s fancy vacations to Europe. It’s almost like being materialistic doesn’t make you happy?? [/quote]

NP. You’re so defensive it’s obvious you’re insecure about your upbringing, which is fine. Having money is always better than not. Being lmc or poor is not fun and it will be even more awful in the future.[/quote]

They didn't say they were poor! Maybe DCUM poor. They went to private school! They went camping and had clothes to wear.

My own 4 children are now adults, and had a similar upbringing. They are all happy and successful, and I guarantee you NONE of them would say, wish we only had two kids so we could have had some international vacations and expensive clothing!

OP, congratulations! Going from 3 to 4 was easy for me, way easier than from 2 to 3! They were 8, 4.5 and 2.5 when #4 was born. Have you used a carrier like an Ergo (or whatever brand)? Makes outings easier and baby loves it.[/quote]

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