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[quote=Anonymous]I think you are comparing yourself to a small number of people. My ILs are similar to your parents and can’t watch our kids. It’s a ton of work to facilitate their visits but we do it so the kids have a relationship with them. It’s not their fault they are older and one is physically in poor health due to chronic illness.

On the flip side my parents are quite young and healthy and both still work part time and have active social life. I would have loved more back up during the workday especially when my husband was traveling but my parents were working too! It’s a huge blessing that they are healthy so I try not to compare. They will take the kids for short periods of time but my oldest has some special needs and can be a lot. It’s fine/ my kids have a relationship with all their grandparents and that’s the most important thing.

Things can also change as your kids get older. My ILs recently had my older (very well behaved) niece stay with them for a couple days. She’s fairly self sufficient at 9 so everyone was comfortable with it. I promise you that time is coming sooner than you think.

My husband occasionally bemoans the lack of date nights and envies people going on kid free trips but makes no effort to set something up with a babysitter or something. I’m too tired to care but my oldest is rapidly approaching the age where they can stay home alone for a little bit and it’s making me aware how fleeting this time that my kids are depending on me really is.

So basically, hire a babysitter if you want. There’s no age requirement for your child. People may judge you differently than having grandparents watch your kid but who cares. People are judgemental of everything [/quote]

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